A dear friend of mine has recently found herself the center of unwanted attention. This attention has gone from bad to worse in levels of behavior. We spoke at length over lunch, covering every base, including giving off the wrong vibes. Which got me to thinking, where is the line drawn between giving off the wrong vibes and people not bothering to read body language?
The longer our discussion went on the more I was convinced she wasn’t giving off the wrong vibes, the men were choosing to ignore the vibes she was giving off. I think this is more common than we think.
I thought back on my dating days. I know there were times when I could have chilled a room with certain expressions I gave to men who would not take a hint. These men paid little to no attention to the fact that I was shifting nervously, looking for an opportunity to escape. The funny thing was they expected me to be flattered by their attention. It didn’t occur to them that I didn’t want their attention.
Which brings me back to my original thoughts. What do you do if you find yourself in this situation? I vote for direct action. Even the thickest skull can comprehend the meaning of the word ‘no’.
July 17th, 2003
