Comments on: Expectations…They’ll Get You Every Time http://www.jordansummers.com/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/ Romance Writer & Urban Fantasy Novelist Mon, 01 Dec 2008 18:39:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: Jordan http://www.jordansummers.com/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9692 Jordan Sat, 23 Dec 2006 19:31:03 +0000 http://208.73.34.214/~jordansu/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9692 Camille, I'm not sure the writing of others helps all the time. (vbg) But I do think focusing on your own writing and perhaps positive reader feedback goes a LONG, LONG way in maintaining a positive outlook. :) Camille, I’m not sure the writing of others helps all the time. (vbg) But I do think focusing on your own writing and perhaps positive reader feedback goes a LONG, LONG way in maintaining a positive outlook. :)

]]> By: Jordan http://www.jordansummers.com/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9691 Jordan Sat, 23 Dec 2006 19:29:15 +0000 http://208.73.34.214/~jordansu/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9691 Jaq, Very good point. You're either flexible like water or you break. May you experience all the joys firsthand in 2007. :D Jaq, Very good point. You’re either flexible like water or you break. May you experience all the joys firsthand in 2007. :D

]]> By: Jordan http://www.jordansummers.com/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9690 Jordan Sat, 23 Dec 2006 19:27:48 +0000 http://208.73.34.214/~jordansu/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9690 Raine, I have to work on it everyday too. I do think it's the most important thing a writer can learn in this business. At least if they want to stay sane. *ggg* Raine, I have to work on it everyday too. I do think it’s the most important thing a writer can learn in this business. At least if they want to stay sane. *ggg*

]]> By: camille http://www.jordansummers.com/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9689 camille Sat, 23 Dec 2006 16:02:19 +0000 http://208.73.34.214/~jordansu/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9689 I think keeping in touch with other writers and writing enthusiasts helps to keep the things which are to some degree beyond our control (like getting published, agents, sales, market saturation, etc.) in the place where they belong; the background. Remaining excited by the product (your writing, the writing of others) keeps us grounded, and keeps what we love most about what we do at the forefront. I think keeping in touch with other writers and writing enthusiasts helps to keep the things which are to some degree beyond our control (like getting published, agents, sales, market saturation, etc.) in the place where they belong; the background. Remaining excited by the product (your writing, the writing of others) keeps us grounded, and keeps what we love most about what we do at the forefront.

]]> By: jaq http://www.jordansummers.com/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9688 jaq Sat, 23 Dec 2006 12:57:53 +0000 http://208.73.34.214/~jordansu/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9688 Good post. One of the benefits *veg* of not getting/being published (yet, but paying attention from the sidelines as other writers--new and old-- go through their paces, is that *expectations* are ruthlessly adjusted, whether you want them to be or not. heh. Good post. One of the benefits *veg* of not getting/being published (yet, but paying attention from the sidelines as other writers–new and old– go through their paces, is that *expectations* are ruthlessly adjusted, whether you want them to be or not. heh.

]]> By: raine http://www.jordansummers.com/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9687 raine Sat, 23 Dec 2006 04:37:51 +0000 http://208.73.34.214/~jordansu/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9687 Good post. I've been working on the 'detaching the self from outcome' idea for some years now. And no, I'm still not very good at it, although I try. There's a fine line to walk between that and believing in self-determination.<p>As for what expectations I'm harboring that would be better directed elsewhere...I think I've pretty well cleared that deck. ;-)</p> Good post. I’ve been working on the ‘detaching the self from outcome’ idea for some years now. And no, I’m still not very good at it, although I try. There’s a fine line to walk between that and believing in self-determination.

As for what expectations I’m harboring that would be better directed elsewhere…I think I’ve pretty well cleared that deck. ;-)

]]> By: Jordan http://www.jordansummers.com/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9686 Jordan Fri, 22 Dec 2006 23:14:58 +0000 http://208.73.34.214/~jordansu/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9686 Tina, Very good point. I'm certainly guilty of that expectation. I'm sure a lot of other people are too. :-/ Tina, Very good point. I’m certainly guilty of that expectation. I’m sure a lot of other people are too. :-/

]]> By: Tina Gerow http://www.jordansummers.com/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9685 Tina Gerow Fri, 22 Dec 2006 22:48:35 +0000 http://208.73.34.214/~jordansu/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9685 I think the expectation that gets me in the most trouble is that I keep expecting that one of these days I'm going to actually be totally confident in my abilities rather than doubting them at every turn. I just need to smack myself upside the head and realize that all I can effect is today, and if I can suspend my doubt and disbelief for a few hours each day and make my word count and just keep putting one foot in front of the other, then that's all I can do...lol. I think the expectation that gets me in the most trouble is that I keep expecting that one of these days I’m going to actually be totally confident in my abilities rather than doubting them at every turn. I just need to smack myself upside the head and realize that all I can effect is today, and if I can suspend my doubt and disbelief for a few hours each day and make my word count and just keep putting one foot in front of the other, then that’s all I can do…lol.

]]> By: Jordan http://www.jordansummers.com/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9684 Jordan Fri, 22 Dec 2006 21:47:56 +0000 http://208.73.34.214/~jordansu/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9684 Ursula, I can say with complete and utter certainty that there are NO sure things in publishing. *ggg* Good luck with your 'future' publisher. :) Ursula, I can say with complete and utter certainty that there are NO sure things in publishing. *ggg* Good luck with your ‘future’ publisher. :)

]]> By: Ursula http://www.jordansummers.com/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9683 Ursula Fri, 22 Dec 2006 20:44:38 +0000 http://208.73.34.214/~jordansu/2006/12/22/expectationstheyll-get-you-every-time/#comment-9683 My favorite type A expectation game is as follows: get my calender, write down what I plan to acomplish which is way more than what can be done (unless I figure out that "alter time" spell I've been working on). Then, I do something completely different from what I wrote down, go back to evaluate, and have a good laugh. I think this is my Gemini at war with my Capricorn ascendent. I try to watch my expectations of publishing because it's kind of a Wild West traveling roullette game and I'm not sure any numbers a sure thing. My one solid expectation is that I'll ultimately get a Futuristic published by Dorchester. Nope, not writing any at this point, and not sure why I have that in my head, but there it is. We'll see what happens over the next 5 years. By the way: I'm SURE Sandy will hear from AVON! She's in my chapter RWA and we're all rooting for her! My favorite type A expectation game is as follows: get my calender, write down what I plan to acomplish which is way more than what can be done (unless I figure out that “alter time” spell I’ve been working on). Then, I do something completely different from what I wrote down, go back to evaluate, and have a good laugh. I think this is my Gemini at war with my Capricorn ascendent. I try to watch my expectations of publishing because it’s kind of a Wild West traveling roullette game and I’m not sure any numbers a sure thing. My one solid expectation is that I’ll ultimately get a Futuristic published by Dorchester. Nope, not writing any at this point, and not sure why I have that in my head, but there it is. We’ll see what happens over the next 5 years. By the way: I’m SURE Sandy will hear from AVON! She’s in my chapter RWA and we’re all rooting for her!

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