I’ve been having a lot of strange ‘thought jumps’ lately. On the one hand, this is great because I’ve been coming up with some damn good story ideas/situations. On the other, it’s a bit of a waste of time because I’m also going off on useless mental meanderings. Like today, dh and I were in the car, driving to our favorite fish and chips shop. We’d just left the house, when I blurted out an idea that had come to me earlier, then asked him if he thought it was stupid.
Now I should probably say right now that dh used to write scripts. Really GOOD scripts. Good enough to get picked up by the BBC. Yeah, that good. So I value his opinion, particularly when it comes to plotting and characterization. (Actually always, if we’re being perfectly honest. *grin*)
So anyhoo, we’re batting ideas and the story possibilities are getting better and better. We have one final wrinkle to tackle and the bones of the story will be there. Yah!
But I digress. During a break in the ‘what if’ session, my mind starts wandering back to Tokyo. I recalled several of the people that we encountered. I should probably mention here that I find exotic-looking people extremely attractive. I saw a few men in Tokyo that I thought were stunning. (There were several women that fell into that category.)
What I realized as I was thinking this was that there was only one that I was actually attracted to out of all the men that I encountered. This thought led me further back in my life and I realized that for the most part I may see someone who is visually stunning, but their physical beauty rarely leads to attraction.
That was a strange revelation for me. Up until that moment, I’d never considered them as two separate things. I figured if you found someone pretty or handsome that you were automatically attracted to them. And that may be the case for most people, but not for me. I guess I need something more to feel physical attraction. (Good thing I was bright enough to recognize that when I met my dh, even if I wasn’t able to articulate it until now.;)
What do you find attractive?
March 1st, 2007
I’ve often thought certain male actors were very attractive (to look at) and I could understand why other women swoon over them, but me personally? meh. So you’re not alone in your reaction.
I like a sense of humour and a sense of integrity. Intelligence, confidence, irreverence, curiousity/open-mindedness and, as a bonus, a sense of style. =:O
Physical aspects are a little more tricky since I’ve been *attracted to* many types. I actually prefer someone who isn’t conventionally handsome. Nice eyes/smile. Decent physical shape, and preferably bigger than me (not too hard to achieve, cause I’m a shrimp. *gg*)
I do tend to like ‘a man’s man’ whatever the heck that means, 9 times out of 10 it translates to arrogant ass. But if he’s an arrogant ass that knows he’s an arrogant ass, and can laugh at himself, plus put up with my little amusing & affectionate prods and pokes to his ego, we’re cool.
You’ve caught me in a pretty chatty mood. Actually I’m waiting for Home Depot to open. lol.
by jaq March 2nd, 2007 at 6:23 amLaughter. A woman who can get a laugh out of most anything is really attractive.
by BernardL March 2nd, 2007 at 7:42 amI hear you Jordan. They are two different things. Take Brad Pitt for example….he’s very attractive…but I feel nothing looking at him. Zilch. Not even a small flutter. But Joaquin Phoenix or Viggo Mortensen and I’m zinging big time. Sometimes its painful just looking at them and never being able to touch. LOL
There was this beautiful Japanese man that used to come into the bookstore I worked at. My God, he was angelic looking, yet I felt nothing. But I saw this other Asian man in the bank, he was stunning too, and oh yeah, I felt the flutters. It’s weird but I think it does come down to subconscious natural preferences. For example tall men make me flutter…they don’t have to even be that physically attractive, but being around a tall man does something to me inside and sends signals to my brain that in turn releases pheromones and I’m attracted. Same with a man that can make me laugh…do you notice comedians dont’ need to be attractive to get hot women. It’s because laughing again releases something inside our bodies and we flutter…LOL
by Vivi Anna March 2nd, 2007 at 9:56 amYep. World of difference between “handsome” and “does it for me”. The things that most attract me to my husband have very little to do with looks and much more to do with character. And sense of humor. And the fact that he thinks I’m a brilliant writer and a great person. *g* Of course, his big shoulders, cleft chin, leather jacket and Harley did not hurt the impression he made on me at all…
by Charli March 2nd, 2007 at 8:21 pmMaybe it’s some kind of chemical reaction or something, lol. I’ve met gorgeous men who did nothing for me–and other men who’ll send a shiver of attraction down my back, and my friends would say, “you like HIM?!”
I like beautiful eyes, a charming smile, dry wit. He should be smart (which may have nothing to do with his level of education, btw). Strong arms, nice hands, chest hair are attractive. Not loud or boisterous (BIG turn off), and must not take himself, or life, too seriously.
Have I been attracted to men who had none of these attributes?
You betcha. Go figure.
by raine March 3rd, 2007 at 12:24 amJaq, I’ve liked and dated all different types too. For the longest time I was drawn to people more confident and talented than I am. I guess I thought it would rub off. *ggg* That changed with my last boyfriend. I decided I wanted something completely different. I threw all my preconceived notions about what I was and was not attracted to out. I definitely go for the intelligent funny men. Probably why I married my husband. He’s scary smart and constantly makes me laugh, which I think is the sexiest thing ever.
by Jordan March 3rd, 2007 at 1:30 pmBernard, I hear you.
by Jordan March 3rd, 2007 at 1:31 pmVivi, I understand. There are several actors that I think are handsome, but very few hit me on a viseral level. Strangely, Daniel Craig did and he’s actually not a handsome guy. I also like tall men, mainly because I want to be able to wear heels. *ggg*
by Jordan March 3rd, 2007 at 1:34 pmCharli, The sense of humor seems to be a common thread with everyone.
by Jordan March 3rd, 2007 at 1:35 pmRaine, I love eyes too. And mouths. Of course, I think kissing is one of the sexiest things on the planet that you can do.
by Jordan March 3rd, 2007 at 1:36 pmThis has nothing to do with this post, but I had to tell you - I had this incredible Tokyo dream last night that I know is totally because of you. My friend and I went to this really inexpensive Tokyo hotel where the rooms were actually shelves cut out of a mountain. In another room, there was a huge wall of different kinds and sizes of silk pajamas, all hung up till they were out of sight on the wall. Oh, and we were late for a tea ceremony. But my friend decided she wanted to stay in a lux hotel, so we went to this other place, and then I was in your Tokyo bathroom! (well, the weird dream version of it). Too cool.
by Jo Leigh March 3rd, 2007 at 4:20 pmJo, LOL! That’s great.
The bathroom was nice, wasn’t it? 
Glad you dropped into Tokyo for a visit. 
by Jordan March 3rd, 2007 at 8:25 pm