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January 29th, 2009
Character Flaw?

I must be strange because throughout my life I’ve ALWAYS believed I could do whatever I set my mind to. (If I decided I wanted to fly in space, I knew I could make it happen. It never occurred to me that I couldn’t. NEVER.) I didn’t realize the way I thought was odd until recently. I thought everyone was like that.

Take getting published. When I decided to take my writing seriously in 2000/2001, I had no doubt I’d get published. I’d heard it was hard. I listened to a lot of horror stories. Knew the odds. And then blissfully ignored them because in my mind the odds never applied to me. I know how incredibly naive that sounds–and it is, but it’s worked for me my whole life. When I was pursuing music, I queried record companies. Everyone told me that’s not how the business worked, including my ex who had a record deal at the time, but I got a call from one of those companies inviting me out to Nashville to sing. I also received a lot of lovely handwritten letters from presidents of record companies passing on my songs, but encouraging me to continue writing. When I decided to take acting lessons (to get over stage-fright), I was told the odds were enormous to land a job. Any job. And I absolutely believed what the other actors were telling me. They’d been in the trenches. They knew. I also believed without a doubt that I would beat those odds. I was flying. I didn’t need the money. So therefore there was no desperation on my part. I was just out to have a good time ‘pretending and playing’. I got two commercials within six months of my first acting class. They’re embarrassing reminders of my younger naive self. 😳 😆 But the important point is I had jobs. I didn’t pursue acting–even though I found it a lot of fun–because it was never my intention to be an actor.

Are you seeing a pattern yet? I’ve kind of waltzed through life like that, which is good and bad. It’s good because like I mentioned above, it never occurs to me that I can’t do something. It’s bad because it makes me extremely impatient and hard on myself when things don’t happen as fast as I’d like. I know a lot of people (including me) get frustrated by this business. Half the time it feels like you’re banging your head against a brick wall laced with razors. But next time you’re ready to throw in the towel, try a little naive belief. You’ll be amazed how far it’ll take you.

(Note: Although I believed I could do all these things I did work hard at each one while pursuing them.)

What do you believe?

12 comments to “Character Flaw?”

  1. Like you, I never believed the odds applied to me. Or at least I thought I could overcome them with sheer determination and hard work. 😆 Um, not much has changed. You’re right, though, it makes it hard to be patient when the going is slow.


  2. Jordan, I’ve always operated that way, and it’s paid off for me in that I’ve followed my passions and met my goals. However, I wasn’t very smart with the whole money thing. I took risks because it was just me, no kids or husbands or even pets, so I didn’t mind living off ramen noodles. I think it takes a certain personality type to jump off the cliff without knowing where you’re going to land.


  3. You proved perseverance and talent accomplish more than anyone cares to admit. I can never figure out why giving up has become so popular.


  4. Your post reminded me a lot of The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch. He may not have had quite the same approach, but if there was something he wanted bad enough, he figured out a way to get it.

    I like to think I’m like that myself. If I want something bad enough, I make sure it happens – even if it’s not right away.


  5. Charli, LOL. I’m now wondering how many writers are like this.


  6. Jo, I don’t know that I was taking big risks. I certainly had the airline as a backup if anything went wrong, but I do believe that you need that personality type to try these types of things.


  7. Bernard, ***I can never figure out why giving up has become so popular.***

    Two words: It’s easy.


  8. Karin, That was an amazing lecture. Truly inspirational. I think everyone should have to watch it.

    I envy your patience. 🙂


  9. Jordan,
    I think we must be a lot alike. Whatever I wanted to do–I just did. When I’ve wanted something badly, I worked hard to make it happen, and it did. I’ve also been blissfully oblivious of dangers around me.


  10. Delilah, Yeah, that pretty much sums me up.


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